I've found myself there alot when I was younger. I allowed myself to grow up feeling unloved and unwanted (true or not) and so nurtured this sense of entitlement to hold on to anger. It totally eclipsed any chance I may have had at reconciliation and let chances for healing and enjoying other peoples company and experiences go by. I had an opportunity to be negative recently and I did give in to it for about three days and then told myself to get over it. It really isn't important in the greater picture. I'm getting better at forgiving and not expecting perfection out of everyone but myself. I just give my self a time limit to stew. Soon it will be three minutes instead of three days. I'm really looking forward to it. I'm not my best when I'm justifying my right to be upset and I don't attract the "best" to me when I am self righteously nurturing indignance. Thanks for writing this excerpt. It let's me know I'm moving in the right direction.
and asked about making greener bags choices when shopping for handbags. A new eco Gucci boutique just opened down the street from our workplace, and it was filled with cute, stylish wholesale handbags clothing that I would wear to work or outside of work. Unfortunately, most of the Gucci bags weren’t fitting into my teacher-salary budget. When it comes to buying greener Gucci handbags, most people have two options: buy used or buy eco-sensitive. I love thrifting, and I get a lot of my designer handbags that way. Sometimes, though, particularly when buying Gucci replica clothes, I can’t find what I need, and it’s time-consuming (although fun!) When I need something new, I don’t have a problem finding clothes I love that are made more sustainably. My problem is finding affordable wardrobe solutions.
Yeah, yeah, I know that cheap clothing is cheap for a reason (or several): exploitative labor practices and environmentally-destructive materials, to name a few. And I su
me to me and asked about making greener bags choices when shopping for handbags. A new eco Gucci boutique just opened down the street from our workplace, and it was filled with cute, stylish wholesale handbags clothing that I would wear to work or outside of work. Unfortunately, most of the Gucci bags weren’t fitting into my teacher-salary budget. When it comes to buying greener Gucci handbags, most people have two options: buy used or buy eco-sensitive. I love thrifting, and I get a lot of my designer handbags that way. Sometimes, though, particularly when buying Gucci replica clothes, I can’t find what I need, and it’s time-consuming (although fun!) When I need something new, I don’t have a problem finding clothes I love that are made more sustainably. My problem is finding affordable wardrobe solutions.
Yeah, yeah, I know that cheap clothing is cheap for a reason (or several): exploitative labor practices and environmentally-destructive materials, to name a few. And I support paying a premium for items that are ethically made, just like when I grocery shop. It’s still hard for me to plunk down my hard-earned cash f
Great first installment.
Though in my opinion the book should be more about business or write the examples of these emotions to business from the very beginning because it looks like a copy of a psicology book. Please, write more real life examples of leaders or business men who have overcome these feelings. then again, great first installment
That's Very good, I think it's like development of command from God, "love your neighbor as you love yourself"
But why sometimes I can lose control of my emotion because I'm scared of my working environment?
Very good, especially the part about forgiving others, not justifying the negativity. This is very Christian based too. One of the last comments, say "I like myself", I could even go a step further. As a Christian, I know that God, my heavenly Father, likes and loves me. That gives me inherent worth and value apart from my accomplishments, so I can lean on the fact that my Creator, someone much greater and higher than me, loves, likes and values me. Thanks, enjoyed reading #1.
I think everyone will agree with what has been recommended. The difficulty is in being able to manage/control our emotions. There are different stages of emotional relalisation, those who know, those who don't and those who think they know. For those who know, they can practise what is recommended and lead themselves to perfection. For those who don't know, they need to understand the consequences of their actions and begin from there. For those who think they know, they are the hardest to deal with as they have to first unlearn, detoxify and then revitalise - a very long process that requires strong determination and stamina to last the transformation journey. John Maxwell makes a fundamental point about how we think and what we do; focus on these 3 things: what is good, what is right and what is true - you can't go wrong!
To me as I see it now, what appears to be a negative emotion is nothing more than a gift we give ourselves to bring us face to face with that which is blocking "True Freedom" and unrestricted being. A paradigm shift in awareness and perception
For the first 25 years of my life I was taught and bought into the belief that you do what ever you can to avoid and prepare for those so called situations that trigger the emotions of fear and pain.
But now I see that by embrassing them and seeing them for what they really are,,, and not what you have been told they are, there lies an opportunity to begin pulling the power out of them,, in essence they lose their charge so to speak. Then you can really play this game of life without the fear that was once present. Even play the same games, yet they feel SO different.
Very cool topic though Robert and one that we all feel very much along the way.
May find this resource interesting regarding this topic and associated means of addressing and dealing/changing ones experience. www.bustingloosefromthebusinessgame.com
I am in no way affiliated with the above website.
I do think that it is of utmost importance that we work through our so-called negative emotions first. We have to feel them, acknowledge and accept them, before we can move on. I cannot forgive and excuse people, if I have not worked through my feelings of outrage, sadness and fear.
I like what you are saying, Robert, yet we have to understand the role that feelings play in our lives. We cannot say to our emotions: do not justify, do not identify for example. You cannot control your feelings by using your rational mind. Feelings live in our lymbic system, ideas in our neocortex (if I am not mistaken). That explains why our feelings sometimes wash over us. All the (rational) talk in the world will not help.
And these feelings will come back over and over again, if we refuse to work through them (or they come back in the form of some illness).
I live in South Africa and we have a history that can fill one with negative emotions, or it can inspire even the most conservative of thinkers. RSA is an unequal society of huge magnitude and many of my countrymen allow that to influence their thinking, instead of recognising the wonderful opportunities that have now been afforded ALL of them through the sacrifices of Nelson Mandela and many other great men and women.
The blame game is bigger tha monopoly in our country and THAT, turned around, could indeed free many millions from negative emotions. The beauty of the land could be transformed to a beauty within.
Thank you Robert for including this into your teachings.
Emotions carry a 50-1 power advantage over a regular state.
All emotions are a result of a belief.
Its a choice between Love and Fear.
Many people who dont know finance, also dont know how the brain works...more importantly, the sub-conscious.
Be repeating and educating, our "reality" will changes as we change our thinking.
Personally, its oneself who gives themselves a negative emotion. Things can happen so bad that you can still be positive about an incident. You have the choice to make the decision that is right for you. Others may find it strange, confusing, weird, or hoping for a negative outcome too. Make sure you are in control.
Negative emotion is just merely you and yourself. The inability to justify one's worth + low self-esteem + stressing external environment = negative emotion. Basically, I feel that negative emotion is self-infected and thus it can be managed. It is the thoughts and responses to certain events which we face daily create the negative emotion. If we keep reminding ourselves to stay positive, you will be positive. It has been true and I have met people of this natural positiveness. No matter how the external world hit hard on her, she always has the ability to view it in positive manner. Thus, it is just merely you and yourself.
Hi Robert
I read your exerpt and I think writing about containing and redirecting negative emotions is a wonderful undertaking.
One thing about negative emotions that I have discovered relate to two things:
Anger and diffusing it - "I feel this way because I was taken advantage of, used, wronged, deceived, etc." The anger is directed toward the person when in fact the person is mad at themself because they allowed it to happen or were not aware enough to see it coming, what ever the issue was. One thing about that is that you don't usually get taken advantage of unless one allows or permits it. The self inflicted boot in the behind is directed toward the other person until one reflects on how they contributed to the situation.
Self punishment or self degrading thoughts - "I was so stupid, I can't do anything right, I am not as smart, skilled, well thought of, etc. as someone else." Those thoughts are harder to control until a person can see the positive side of things - We're all given talents - things we do well or a little better than someone else. We work at those talents more because we feel rewarded or take pleasure and truly enjoy doing them. Doing those things that please ourselves and improve our self esteme can extend on to reaffirming that we are good at something, we're only human, not perfect, and we learn by our mistakes.
These two thought patterns switch back and forth, similar to a light switch that goes round and round. To break the cycle, one has to grab on to hope. Your finanical education philosophy can break this cycle. Concrete steps on how to do what is necessary to get into a position of not only comfort, but beyond is welcomed as much as rain and water to a desert. Some will flourish and others will always feel that they can't get the concepts.
Keep up the good works. The brass ring is there, one just has to find it.
The Currently, I became I quadrant more than ESB successful,
1. The parents give money to me, then I take money to bank for portfolio income.
2. If I do not work, I can receive interest income & dividend income, and they can pay insurance expenses, and safe deposit expenses.
3. Since 2008, I met richdad series books, I learned different quadrant, different income. When I take money to New Zealand Dollar & South African Rand. In half of 2009, I read the dividend income to balance for bank statement. The final, I bought mutual fund income. The Currently, I received US$3 per day.
4. I am unhappy, because I had lower grade of school certificate, and I am afriad of became S quadrant for bankrupty.
Self-Defensiveness drives us to negative emotions.Negative emotions compensates for the hurt we receive from the offense we encounter.It seems one becomes thrilled when another feels the same or almost the same hurt one experienced,isnt that revenge.So negative emotions prompts revenge.
being an entrepreneur, leader, or individual you have to be able to identify causes of negative emotions and learn to manage them in order to grow. i think the excerpt was good and i think the concept of the book is great.
-Richie
I think that you are an excellent teacher. You know what it takes to reach our goals. You also have a great talent in the way you share all the different scenarios we need in order to achieve them. Our emotions will either prevent us from or give us a boost in reaching our goals--depending on whether we are negative or focused on the positive. As you know, this topic is critical.
It's hard to put it all into words, and you don't have time to read them anyway. But, thank you for your mission to help people like me to become financially free, to educate us, etc. My life has changed in so many ways and continues to do so. Thanks for empowering us.
Hi Robert its a honor to contribute with my thoughts.
Robert, what you're saying is true. Personally I believe that behind justifying is the fear of being damage because of rejection.
I had identify that the more my self acceptance depends on others (the way I look, think, say, where I live, decide, etc.) rather than having an independent self acceptance, the more I'll justify because I don't want to be rejected and loose my source of acceptance, mostly what other think about me.
Yes, very true - but difficult to practice.
But it is an old adage that you should onto others as you would like others to do onto you. Love thy fellow men (and women).
Also when things are going wrong, its not easy to stay sober in you thoughts.
Having said this - you are so right - people skills are very important in business. You always sell not only your product but also yourself. You sell to people even if you sell big corporations.
If you let someone feel important (truthfully) and really want to solve his problem in a honest way you have done well. This should leave you the Entrepreneur in good form to be successful in business. Although retired I have great interest in all your books - have read every one.
Keep up the good and interesting work. It can only contribute to make the world a better place for people to live in.
Regards,
Gert
Robert,your lastest posting about,Iran moving oil funds to euros is ominus. I have friends who have out moved out of the country. what is your advice,here with our marginal dollars......
I am enjoying what I am reading so far. It is so practical and I can relate to what you are saying on a personal level.
Keep it up Mr Kiyosaki and God bless.
When I grew up both of my parents were working artists who had been professional actors, theatre set designers, window displayman and commercial and fine art painter. My grandparents were doctors, one as a college president and the other as a dentist. The idea of business was not only looked down upon but considered the lowest form of work. When I started working for myself that was OK because I was a "craftsman" however when I joined a network marketing business and later, because I wanted to learn sales, sold vacuums door to door my mother was quite humiliated. I took a lot of desire to overcome those ideas but I knew nothing happened until something was sold.
My wife was very uncomfortable with the insecurity of sales since I was still new and could not guarantee the income each week and since we 5 young children. I decided to go back to being a mechanic in the S quadrant. It is difficult to fight the emotion of family.
I think the are a common limitation to future business relationships among individuals. Am writing form my unique environment in which quite a number of dudes desiring finacial freedom, willing to do something about it smartly, would happily accept cheating you once they get the advantage. Learning from the negative experience and being smarter next time is the only way that business relationship with this kind of people could stand.
hello robert, you have written in your book that the schooling system lacks practicality in a way and also financial education, and you are right to say that. The academic education as well is corrupt wherever in the world we go. But what now. What are you doing. Do you or have you send your kids to school, should we go to school, a place you have called as "weapons of mass instruction and dumbing us down". Shouldn't there be a better schooling system created, which is better with academic and financial education? My question is, what can we do about it? How can we create a better system?
You have written about many spheres in money-real estate, education, conspiracy and so on...yet either way you have always touched upon the mindset and the emotional factor. \it's a good thing that now you elaborate because many people already know what the dangers of the conspiracy are and about the rich idealogy and pretty much all the win-the-rat-race stuff but still people can't get down to it. Often enough it's emotions that get in the way-people have a dream, the skills and the plan to accomplish them but they are just not tough enough to handle the nasty business environment or are unable to lead the team because they may not be the leader type or crack from stress like me. i think this book is going to be particularly handy for people who already figured it all and just need the emotional armour to get down to it all. Thank ou for your work
Have you ever seen The Zeitgeist addendum film? www.thezeitgeistmovement.com - I know you are the best teacher of financial education in the world and to me is very interesting what are your thoughts about this film and this movement's mission?
I saw this film and now in my head is mess.
Please write your answer to the forum or to email address - lukrecija17@yahoo.com
It's nothing new to me, just what I've learned from experience, but there are many who need to hear it, and some who would not listen to it otherwise if they did not hear it from you, Mr. Kiyosaki.
Taking responsibility for things is crucial to our continued growth and success. When we accept the responsibility we give ourselves the opportunity to learn from the mistakes and best of all, we give ourselves the POWER to make a different choice and have a different outcome in the future.
Not to mention that in the professional world, I have little respect for people who blame others. It makes me a little distrustful of them because if we are working in a team and something goes wrong, the blamer is the first one to badmouth their team members to clients or management. Who wants to work with that person? I have so much more respect for people who say, yeah, we learned a lot on this project and here are the improvements we'll make on the next one. Now that sounds like a person who I want to work with because I know they are continually striving to do better.
I wish you would have introduced this project before The Conspiracy of the Rich. This is a project that really puts humanity back in control of its own past, present and future. -Thanks a Zil.
"Nobody must not be subjected to the torture, violence, the other cruel or humiliating human value to address or punishment".
This article from Constitution of the Russian Federation. The Truth I translation has got using translator. Do Not know it is correct was got translation.
Thank you again Robert for sharing this with everyone. I am now reading your book "Why we want you to be rich." and enjoying every page. I even got Donald Trumps books now. I am hooked. Anyway, I had a Aha! moment. I was talking to a friend of mine and I told her that I had started getting my finances in to order so that I could become rich and she said "I never thought about becoming rich. I just thought about being good at my job and not getting something out of it." My reply was that you could do both, give something and get something but her view that being rich was greedy didn't allow her to believe that. Then I realized that I was talking to a safe and secure person. Her training made her believe that everything would be provided because she was doing an important job. She was told that money didn't matter. And in an Academic Medical Center that is the story. It is different then the "find a safe and secure job". It is "Don't worry about the money, do your job well and you will always get paid well." That will not be true if Obama puts through his health care package. The next cut is for Docotors and nurses.
Anyway, I couldn't convince her even when she was recently fired and has to now go out and open a private practice herself. It is amazing that people only want to see what they want. Their entitlement mentality is so strong that they will not look at any other options. Maybe she is scared.
Thank you for taking your time and resources to teach.
Thank you for working hard to improve America and save some of us
from the coming crisis. I really have opened my eyes now and
no matter how people try to make me believe that a degree will
save me, I now know that I will save myself with knowledge....
The new Power.
Take care. Oh, and are you becoming a Buddhist? :)
Talking to monks? It doesn't matter, I was just kidding. But it is good what ever you believe. You have a great mission and your heart is good. I support you.
Just to add on to your excerpt on the above topic.
"Human success is based on the ability to learn from our mistakes".Bill Gates
"Life can only be understood backwards but,however, it must be lived forwards".unknown
"You are where you are because thats exactly where you want to be".unknown
The major tragedy of human beings is our failure to turn and move with the wheel of life as it spins,changes and re-arranges itself.We literally blame life itself for what it is, instead of responding to it in a positve way.Seasons will come and go and we keep on making the same mistakes and look for someone or something to blame.We actually become passive by blame such that we expect God to come down and spoon feed us.We are constantly looking for excuses to find somebody to blame and little do we know of our embedded inner spiritual resources to rise out of our negative situations.
"He who laughs lasts and he who dares wins".unknown
I don’t agree that blame is the root of all negative emotions; it might be fear or pain instead. Nor does it always feel truthful or healthy to say “I am responsible”. It depends on the situation.
But I agree that the idea is to find your power. You can do that by seeking out different perspectives. I would modify “Upon seeing both sides of an issue, the lesson will appear.” There are often many more sides to an issue than just two.
With blame, it’s natural to focus on all of the lessons that the other person is supposed to learn. Instead, focus on all of your behavior that was good, that you are proud of, that you perhaps need to strengthen much further. Find the gifts from the most painful of situations to take away any power the other person may hold over you. Make a list of all that you have learned, keep it, and build upon it. The next time you feel like blaming, refer back to the list and add to it or reread it. Maybe the lesson in blame is how can we move towards what we need and want in life and away from that which drains us?
Regarding gratitude, sometimes the gift is the strength we’ve built up to choose to stay away from the person or thing that hurt us. Be thankful the situation is over. Be thankful for all of the good things that have already or could still come out of the painful experience.
Regarding laughter, it can be more fun to laugh at the person/thing we blame (or fear) than to laugh at ourselves. For example, imagine the person dressed in funny clothes as JK Rowling teaches children with her Riddikulus Spell.
It can also be empowering to relive certain parts of the experience in your imagination. Don’t change anything about the other person; instead, imagine how different your responses would be with what you know now. Protect yourself this time!
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I've found myself there alot when I was younger. I allowed myself to grow up feeling unloved and unwanted (true or not) and so nurtured this sense of entitlement to hold on to anger. It totally eclipsed any chance I may have had at reconciliation and let chances for healing and enjoying other peoples company and experiences go by. I had an opportunity to be negative recently and I did give in to it for about three days and then told myself to get over it. It really isn't important in the greater picture. I'm getting better at forgiving and not expecting perfection out of everyone but myself. I just give my self a time limit to stew. Soon it will be three minutes instead of three days. I'm really looking forward to it. I'm not my best when I'm justifying my right to be upset and I don't attract the "best" to me when I am self righteously nurturing indignance. Thanks for writing this excerpt. It let's me know I'm moving in the right direction.
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Yeah, yeah, I know that cheap clothing is cheap for a reason (or several): exploitative labor practices and environmentally-destructive materials, to name a few. And I su
me to me and asked about making greener bags choices when shopping for handbags. A new eco Gucci boutique just opened down the street from our workplace, and it was filled with cute, stylish wholesale handbags clothing that I would wear to work or outside of work. Unfortunately, most of the Gucci bags weren’t fitting into my teacher-salary budget. When it comes to buying greener Gucci handbags, most people have two options: buy used or buy eco-sensitive. I love thrifting, and I get a lot of my designer handbags that way. Sometimes, though, particularly when buying Gucci replica clothes, I can’t find what I need, and it’s time-consuming (although fun!) When I need something new, I don’t have a problem finding clothes I love that are made more sustainably. My problem is finding affordable wardrobe solutions.
Yeah, yeah, I know that cheap clothing is cheap for a reason (or several): exploitative labor practices and environmentally-destructive materials, to name a few. And I support paying a premium for items that are ethically made, just like when I grocery shop. It’s still hard for me to plunk down my hard-earned cash f
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Great first installment.
Though in my opinion the book should be more about business or write the examples of these emotions to business from the very beginning because it looks like a copy of a psicology book. Please, write more real life examples of leaders or business men who have overcome these feelings. then again, great first installment
That's Very good, I think it's like development of command from God, "love your neighbor as you love yourself"
But why sometimes I can lose control of my emotion because I'm scared of my working environment?
Very good, especially the part about forgiving others, not justifying the negativity. This is very Christian based too. One of the last comments, say "I like myself", I could even go a step further. As a Christian, I know that God, my heavenly Father, likes and loves me. That gives me inherent worth and value apart from my accomplishments, so I can lean on the fact that my Creator, someone much greater and higher than me, loves, likes and values me. Thanks, enjoyed reading #1.
I think everyone will agree with what has been recommended. The difficulty is in being able to manage/control our emotions. There are different stages of emotional relalisation, those who know, those who don't and those who think they know. For those who know, they can practise what is recommended and lead themselves to perfection. For those who don't know, they need to understand the consequences of their actions and begin from there. For those who think they know, they are the hardest to deal with as they have to first unlearn, detoxify and then revitalise - a very long process that requires strong determination and stamina to last the transformation journey. John Maxwell makes a fundamental point about how we think and what we do; focus on these 3 things: what is good, what is right and what is true - you can't go wrong!
To me as I see it now, what appears to be a negative emotion is nothing more than a gift we give ourselves to bring us face to face with that which is blocking "True Freedom" and unrestricted being. A paradigm shift in awareness and perception
For the first 25 years of my life I was taught and bought into the belief that you do what ever you can to avoid and prepare for those so called situations that trigger the emotions of fear and pain.
But now I see that by embrassing them and seeing them for what they really are,,, and not what you have been told they are, there lies an opportunity to begin pulling the power out of them,, in essence they lose their charge so to speak. Then you can really play this game of life without the fear that was once present. Even play the same games, yet they feel SO different.
Very cool topic though Robert and one that we all feel very much along the way.
May find this resource interesting regarding this topic and associated means of addressing and dealing/changing ones experience.
www.bustingloosefromthebusinessgame.com
I am in no way affiliated with the above website.
I would like to share a book that details how our beliefs shape our reality and how to transcend the attitude of a fear based culture....
"Love is letting go of fear"
Have a good one,
Kenny
I do think that it is of utmost importance that we work through our so-called negative emotions first. We have to feel them, acknowledge and accept them, before we can move on. I cannot forgive and excuse people, if I have not worked through my feelings of outrage, sadness and fear.
I like what you are saying, Robert, yet we have to understand the role that feelings play in our lives. We cannot say to our emotions: do not justify, do not identify for example. You cannot control your feelings by using your rational mind. Feelings live in our lymbic system, ideas in our neocortex (if I am not mistaken). That explains why our feelings sometimes wash over us. All the (rational) talk in the world will not help.
And these feelings will come back over and over again, if we refuse to work through them (or they come back in the form of some illness).
I live in South Africa and we have a history that can fill one with negative emotions, or it can inspire even the most conservative of thinkers. RSA is an unequal society of huge magnitude and many of my countrymen allow that to influence their thinking, instead of recognising the wonderful opportunities that have now been afforded ALL of them through the sacrifices of Nelson Mandela and many other great men and women.
The blame game is bigger tha monopoly in our country and THAT, turned around, could indeed free many millions from negative emotions. The beauty of the land could be transformed to a beauty within.
Thank you Robert for including this into your teachings.
Emotions carry a 50-1 power advantage over a regular state.
All emotions are a result of a belief.
Its a choice between Love and Fear.
Many people who dont know finance, also dont know how the brain works...more importantly, the sub-conscious.
Be repeating and educating, our "reality" will changes as we change our thinking.
Namaste
Kenny, Edmonton, Alberta, Canada
Personally, its oneself who gives themselves a negative emotion. Things can happen so bad that you can still be positive about an incident. You have the choice to make the decision that is right for you. Others may find it strange, confusing, weird, or hoping for a negative outcome too. Make sure you are in control.
Robert, where can i get his book (or the excerpts you are referring to?)
Regards, Stephen Strydom - South Africa
Negative emotion is just merely you and yourself. The inability to justify one's worth + low self-esteem + stressing external environment = negative emotion. Basically, I feel that negative emotion is self-infected and thus it can be managed. It is the thoughts and responses to certain events which we face daily create the negative emotion. If we keep reminding ourselves to stay positive, you will be positive. It has been true and I have met people of this natural positiveness. No matter how the external world hit hard on her, she always has the ability to view it in positive manner. Thus, it is just merely you and yourself.
Hi Robert
I read your exerpt and I think writing about containing and redirecting negative emotions is a wonderful undertaking.
One thing about negative emotions that I have discovered relate to two things:
Anger and diffusing it - "I feel this way because I was taken advantage of, used, wronged, deceived, etc." The anger is directed toward the person when in fact the person is mad at themself because they allowed it to happen or were not aware enough to see it coming, what ever the issue was. One thing about that is that you don't usually get taken advantage of unless one allows or permits it. The self inflicted boot in the behind is directed toward the other person until one reflects on how they contributed to the situation.
Self punishment or self degrading thoughts - "I was so stupid, I can't do anything right, I am not as smart, skilled, well thought of, etc. as someone else." Those thoughts are harder to control until a person can see the positive side of things - We're all given talents - things we do well or a little better than someone else. We work at those talents more because we feel rewarded or take pleasure and truly enjoy doing them. Doing those things that please ourselves and improve our self esteme can extend on to reaffirming that we are good at something, we're only human, not perfect, and we learn by our mistakes.
These two thought patterns switch back and forth, similar to a light switch that goes round and round. To break the cycle, one has to grab on to hope. Your finanical education philosophy can break this cycle. Concrete steps on how to do what is necessary to get into a position of not only comfort, but beyond is welcomed as much as rain and water to a desert. Some will flourish and others will always feel that they can't get the concepts.
Keep up the good works. The brass ring is there, one just has to find it.
The Currently, I became I quadrant more than ESB successful,
1. The parents give money to me, then I take money to bank for portfolio income.
2. If I do not work, I can receive interest income & dividend income, and they can pay insurance expenses, and safe deposit expenses.
3. Since 2008, I met richdad series books, I learned different quadrant, different income. When I take money to New Zealand Dollar & South African Rand. In half of 2009, I read the dividend income to balance for bank statement. The final, I bought mutual fund income. The Currently, I received US$3 per day.
4. I am unhappy, because I had lower grade of school certificate, and I am afriad of became S quadrant for bankrupty.
5. The final, I upgrade I quadrant of skills.
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Thanks!
Self-Defensiveness drives us to negative emotions.Negative emotions compensates for the hurt we receive from the offense we encounter.It seems one becomes thrilled when another feels the same or almost the same hurt one experienced,isnt that revenge.So negative emotions prompts revenge.
What do you think GOOD TEACHER?
being an entrepreneur, leader, or individual you have to be able to identify causes of negative emotions and learn to manage them in order to grow. i think the excerpt was good and i think the concept of the book is great.
-Richie
I think that you are an excellent teacher. You know what it takes to reach our goals. You also have a great talent in the way you share all the different scenarios we need in order to achieve them. Our emotions will either prevent us from or give us a boost in reaching our goals--depending on whether we are negative or focused on the positive. As you know, this topic is critical.
It's hard to put it all into words, and you don't have time to read them anyway. But, thank you for your mission to help people like me to become financially free, to educate us, etc. My life has changed in so many ways and continues to do so. Thanks for empowering us.
Lisa
Hi Robert its a honor to contribute with my thoughts.
Robert, what you're saying is true. Personally I believe that behind justifying is the fear of being damage because of rejection.
I had identify that the more my self acceptance depends on others (the way I look, think, say, where I live, decide, etc.) rather than having an independent self acceptance, the more I'll justify because I don't want to be rejected and loose my source of acceptance, mostly what other think about me.
Loved this chapter
Yes, very true - but difficult to practice.
But it is an old adage that you should onto others as you would like others to do onto you. Love thy fellow men (and women).
Also when things are going wrong, its not easy to stay sober in you thoughts.
Having said this - you are so right - people skills are very important in business. You always sell not only your product but also yourself. You sell to people even if you sell big corporations.
If you let someone feel important (truthfully) and really want to solve his problem in a honest way you have done well. This should leave you the Entrepreneur in good form to be successful in business. Although retired I have great interest in all your books - have read every one.
Keep up the good and interesting work. It can only contribute to make the world a better place for people to live in.
Regards,
Gert
My frst reaction?
"Oh my God, Robert knows me, I did all this things!" Time to change.
Robert,your lastest posting about,Iran moving oil funds to euros is ominus. I have friends who have out moved out of the country. what is your advice,here with our marginal dollars......
I am enjoying what I am reading so far. It is so practical and I can relate to what you are saying on a personal level.
Keep it up Mr Kiyosaki and God bless.
When I grew up both of my parents were working artists who had been professional actors, theatre set designers, window displayman and commercial and fine art painter. My grandparents were doctors, one as a college president and the other as a dentist. The idea of business was not only looked down upon but considered the lowest form of work. When I started working for myself that was OK because I was a "craftsman" however when I joined a network marketing business and later, because I wanted to learn sales, sold vacuums door to door my mother was quite humiliated. I took a lot of desire to overcome those ideas but I knew nothing happened until something was sold.
My wife was very uncomfortable with the insecurity of sales since I was still new and could not guarantee the income each week and since we 5 young children. I decided to go back to being a mechanic in the S quadrant. It is difficult to fight the emotion of family.
I think the are a common limitation to future business relationships among individuals. Am writing form my unique environment in which quite a number of dudes desiring finacial freedom, willing to do something about it smartly, would happily accept cheating you once they get the advantage. Learning from the negative experience and being smarter next time is the only way that business relationship with this kind of people could stand.
hello robert, you have written in your book that the schooling system lacks practicality in a way and also financial education, and you are right to say that. The academic education as well is corrupt wherever in the world we go. But what now. What are you doing. Do you or have you send your kids to school, should we go to school, a place you have called as "weapons of mass instruction and dumbing us down". Shouldn't there be a better schooling system created, which is better with academic and financial education? My question is, what can we do about it? How can we create a better system?
You have written about many spheres in money-real estate, education, conspiracy and so on...yet either way you have always touched upon the mindset and the emotional factor. \it's a good thing that now you elaborate because many people already know what the dangers of the conspiracy are and about the rich idealogy and pretty much all the win-the-rat-race stuff but still people can't get down to it. Often enough it's emotions that get in the way-people have a dream, the skills and the plan to accomplish them but they are just not tough enough to handle the nasty business environment or are unable to lead the team because they may not be the leader type or crack from stress like me. i think this book is going to be particularly handy for people who already figured it all and just need the emotional armour to get down to it all. Thank ou for your work
Good afternoon Mr. Robert,
Have you ever seen The Zeitgeist addendum film?
www.thezeitgeistmovement.com - I know you are the best teacher of financial education in the world and to me is very interesting what are your thoughts about this film and this movement's mission?
I saw this film and now in my head is mess.
Please write your answer to the forum or to email address - lukrecija17@yahoo.com
Thank you,
Yours respectfully,
Ana Suchanova - Lithuania, Vilnius
lack of trust in your self and other people.
It's nothing new to me, just what I've learned from experience, but there are many who need to hear it, and some who would not listen to it otherwise if they did not hear it from you, Mr. Kiyosaki.
Taking responsibility for things is crucial to our continued growth and success. When we accept the responsibility we give ourselves the opportunity to learn from the mistakes and best of all, we give ourselves the POWER to make a different choice and have a different outcome in the future.
Not to mention that in the professional world, I have little respect for people who blame others. It makes me a little distrustful of them because if we are working in a team and something goes wrong, the blamer is the first one to badmouth their team members to clients or management. Who wants to work with that person? I have so much more respect for people who say, yeah, we learned a lot on this project and here are the improvements we'll make on the next one. Now that sounds like a person who I want to work with because I know they are continually striving to do better.
A lot of people get wound up with the justice of the situation.
...being justified to take action...
...it not right.... they are wrong...
... they should be sued... we need justice... etc etc
They can't see the other side on the argument because they are sooo right and they are sooo wrong adn should be taught a lesson..
I wish you would have introduced this project before The Conspiracy of the Rich. This is a project that really puts humanity back in control of its own past, present and future. -Thanks a Zil.
Reality. The truth is here and a great read.
"Nobody must not be subjected to the torture, violence, the other cruel or humiliating human value to address or punishment".
This article from Constitution of the Russian Federation. The Truth I translation has got using translator. Do Not know it is correct was got translation.
Wow!
Now I create this: "My truth - my secret!".
Thank you again Robert for sharing this with everyone. I am now reading your book "Why we want you to be rich." and enjoying every page. I even got Donald Trumps books now. I am hooked. Anyway, I had a Aha! moment. I was talking to a friend of mine and I told her that I had started getting my finances in to order so that I could become rich and she said "I never thought about becoming rich. I just thought about being good at my job and not getting something out of it." My reply was that you could do both, give something and get something but her view that being rich was greedy didn't allow her to believe that. Then I realized that I was talking to a safe and secure person. Her training made her believe that everything would be provided because she was doing an important job. She was told that money didn't matter. And in an Academic Medical Center that is the story. It is different then the "find a safe and secure job". It is "Don't worry about the money, do your job well and you will always get paid well." That will not be true if Obama puts through his health care package. The next cut is for Docotors and nurses.
Anyway, I couldn't convince her even when she was recently fired and has to now go out and open a private practice herself. It is amazing that people only want to see what they want. Their entitlement mentality is so strong that they will not look at any other options. Maybe she is scared.
Thank you for taking your time and resources to teach.
Thank you for working hard to improve America and save some of us
from the coming crisis. I really have opened my eyes now and
no matter how people try to make me believe that a degree will
save me, I now know that I will save myself with knowledge....
The new Power.
Take care. Oh, and are you becoming a Buddhist? :)
Talking to monks? It doesn't matter, I was just kidding. But it is good what ever you believe. You have a great mission and your heart is good. I support you.
Just to add on to your excerpt on the above topic.
"Human success is based on the ability to learn from our mistakes".Bill Gates
"Life can only be understood backwards but,however, it must be lived forwards".unknown
"You are where you are because thats exactly where you want to be".unknown
The major tragedy of human beings is our failure to turn and move with the wheel of life as it spins,changes and re-arranges itself.We literally blame life itself for what it is, instead of responding to it in a positve way.Seasons will come and go and we keep on making the same mistakes and look for someone or something to blame.We actually become passive by blame such that we expect God to come down and spoon feed us.We are constantly looking for excuses to find somebody to blame and little do we know of our embedded inner spiritual resources to rise out of our negative situations.
"He who laughs lasts and he who dares wins".unknown
I don’t agree that blame is the root of all negative emotions; it might be fear or pain instead. Nor does it always feel truthful or healthy to say “I am responsible”. It depends on the situation.
But I agree that the idea is to find your power. You can do that by seeking out different perspectives. I would modify “Upon seeing both sides of an issue, the lesson will appear.” There are often many more sides to an issue than just two.
With blame, it’s natural to focus on all of the lessons that the other person is supposed to learn. Instead, focus on all of your behavior that was good, that you are proud of, that you perhaps need to strengthen much further. Find the gifts from the most painful of situations to take away any power the other person may hold over you. Make a list of all that you have learned, keep it, and build upon it. The next time you feel like blaming, refer back to the list and add to it or reread it. Maybe the lesson in blame is how can we move towards what we need and want in life and away from that which drains us?
Regarding gratitude, sometimes the gift is the strength we’ve built up to choose to stay away from the person or thing that hurt us. Be thankful the situation is over. Be thankful for all of the good things that have already or could still come out of the painful experience.
Regarding laughter, it can be more fun to laugh at the person/thing we blame (or fear) than to laugh at ourselves. For example, imagine the person dressed in funny clothes as JK Rowling teaches children with her Riddikulus Spell.
It can also be empowering to relive certain parts of the experience in your imagination. Don’t change anything about the other person; instead, imagine how different your responses would be with what you know now. Protect yourself this time!