I do think that it is of utmost importance that we work through our so-called negative emotions first. We have to feel them, acknowledge and accept them, before we can move on. I cannot forgive and excuse people, if I have not worked through my feelings of outrage, sadness and fear.
I like what you are saying, Robert, yet we have to understand the role that feelings play in our lives. We cannot say to our emotions: do not justify, do not identify for example. You cannot control your feelings by using your rational mind. Feelings live in our lymbic system, ideas in our neocortex (if I am not mistaken). That explains why our feelings sometimes wash over us. All the (rational) talk in the world will not help.
And these feelings will come back over and over again, if we refuse to work through them (or they come back in the form of some illness).
I live in South Africa and we have a history that can fill one with negative emotions, or it can inspire even the most conservative of thinkers. RSA is an unequal society of huge magnitude and many of my countrymen allow that to influence their thinking, instead of recognising the wonderful opportunities that have now been afforded ALL of them through the sacrifices of Nelson Mandela and many other great men and women.
The blame game is bigger tha monopoly in our country and THAT, turned around, could indeed free many millions from negative emotions. The beauty of the land could be transformed to a beauty within.
Thank you Robert for including this into your teachings.
Emotions carry a 50-1 power advantage over a regular state.
All emotions are a result of a belief.
Its a choice between Love and Fear.
Many people who dont know finance, also dont know how the brain works...more importantly, the sub-conscious.
Be repeating and educating, our "reality" will changes as we change our thinking.
Personally, its oneself who gives themselves a negative emotion. Things can happen so bad that you can still be positive about an incident. You have the choice to make the decision that is right for you. Others may find it strange, confusing, weird, or hoping for a negative outcome too. Make sure you are in control.
Negative emotion is just merely you and yourself. The inability to justify one's worth + low self-esteem + stressing external environment = negative emotion. Basically, I feel that negative emotion is self-infected and thus it can be managed. It is the thoughts and responses to certain events which we face daily create the negative emotion. If we keep reminding ourselves to stay positive, you will be positive. It has been true and I have met people of this natural positiveness. No matter how the external world hit hard on her, she always has the ability to view it in positive manner. Thus, it is just merely you and yourself.
Hi Robert
I read your exerpt and I think writing about containing and redirecting negative emotions is a wonderful undertaking.
One thing about negative emotions that I have discovered relate to two things:
Anger and diffusing it - "I feel this way because I was taken advantage of, used, wronged, deceived, etc." The anger is directed toward the person when in fact the person is mad at themself because they allowed it to happen or were not aware enough to see it coming, what ever the issue was. One thing about that is that you don't usually get taken advantage of unless one allows or permits it. The self inflicted boot in the behind is directed toward the other person until one reflects on how they contributed to the situation.
Self punishment or self degrading thoughts - "I was so stupid, I can't do anything right, I am not as smart, skilled, well thought of, etc. as someone else." Those thoughts are harder to control until a person can see the positive side of things - We're all given talents - things we do well or a little better than someone else. We work at those talents more because we feel rewarded or take pleasure and truly enjoy doing them. Doing those things that please ourselves and improve our self esteme can extend on to reaffirming that we are good at something, we're only human, not perfect, and we learn by our mistakes.
These two thought patterns switch back and forth, similar to a light switch that goes round and round. To break the cycle, one has to grab on to hope. Your finanical education philosophy can break this cycle. Concrete steps on how to do what is necessary to get into a position of not only comfort, but beyond is welcomed as much as rain and water to a desert. Some will flourish and others will always feel that they can't get the concepts.
Keep up the good works. The brass ring is there, one just has to find it.
The Currently, I became I quadrant more than ESB successful,
1. The parents give money to me, then I take money to bank for portfolio income.
2. If I do not work, I can receive interest income & dividend income, and they can pay insurance expenses, and safe deposit expenses.
3. Since 2008, I met richdad series books, I learned different quadrant, different income. When I take money to New Zealand Dollar & South African Rand. In half of 2009, I read the dividend income to balance for bank statement. The final, I bought mutual fund income. The Currently, I received US$3 per day.
4. I am unhappy, because I had lower grade of school certificate, and I am afriad of became S quadrant for bankrupty.
Self-Defensiveness drives us to negative emotions.Negative emotions compensates for the hurt we receive from the offense we encounter.It seems one becomes thrilled when another feels the same or almost the same hurt one experienced,isnt that revenge.So negative emotions prompts revenge.
being an entrepreneur, leader, or individual you have to be able to identify causes of negative emotions and learn to manage them in order to grow. i think the excerpt was good and i think the concept of the book is great.
-Richie
I think that you are an excellent teacher. You know what it takes to reach our goals. You also have a great talent in the way you share all the different scenarios we need in order to achieve them. Our emotions will either prevent us from or give us a boost in reaching our goals--depending on whether we are negative or focused on the positive. As you know, this topic is critical.
It's hard to put it all into words, and you don't have time to read them anyway. But, thank you for your mission to help people like me to become financially free, to educate us, etc. My life has changed in so many ways and continues to do so. Thanks for empowering us.
Hi Robert its a honor to contribute with my thoughts.
Robert, what you're saying is true. Personally I believe that behind justifying is the fear of being damage because of rejection.
I had identify that the more my self acceptance depends on others (the way I look, think, say, where I live, decide, etc.) rather than having an independent self acceptance, the more I'll justify because I don't want to be rejected and loose my source of acceptance, mostly what other think about me.
Yes, very true - but difficult to practice.
But it is an old adage that you should onto others as you would like others to do onto you. Love thy fellow men (and women).
Also when things are going wrong, its not easy to stay sober in you thoughts.
Having said this - you are so right - people skills are very important in business. You always sell not only your product but also yourself. You sell to people even if you sell big corporations.
If you let someone feel important (truthfully) and really want to solve his problem in a honest way you have done well. This should leave you the Entrepreneur in good form to be successful in business. Although retired I have great interest in all your books - have read every one.
Keep up the good and interesting work. It can only contribute to make the world a better place for people to live in.
Regards,
Gert
Robert,your lastest posting about,Iran moving oil funds to euros is ominus. I have friends who have out moved out of the country. what is your advice,here with our marginal dollars......
I am enjoying what I am reading so far. It is so practical and I can relate to what you are saying on a personal level.
Keep it up Mr Kiyosaki and God bless.
When I grew up both of my parents were working artists who had been professional actors, theatre set designers, window displayman and commercial and fine art painter. My grandparents were doctors, one as a college president and the other as a dentist. The idea of business was not only looked down upon but considered the lowest form of work. When I started working for myself that was OK because I was a "craftsman" however when I joined a network marketing business and later, because I wanted to learn sales, sold vacuums door to door my mother was quite humiliated. I took a lot of desire to overcome those ideas but I knew nothing happened until something was sold.
My wife was very uncomfortable with the insecurity of sales since I was still new and could not guarantee the income each week and since we 5 young children. I decided to go back to being a mechanic in the S quadrant. It is difficult to fight the emotion of family.
I think the are a common limitation to future business relationships among individuals. Am writing form my unique environment in which quite a number of dudes desiring finacial freedom, willing to do something about it smartly, would happily accept cheating you once they get the advantage. Learning from the negative experience and being smarter next time is the only way that business relationship with this kind of people could stand.
hello robert, you have written in your book that the schooling system lacks practicality in a way and also financial education, and you are right to say that. The academic education as well is corrupt wherever in the world we go. But what now. What are you doing. Do you or have you send your kids to school, should we go to school, a place you have called as "weapons of mass instruction and dumbing us down". Shouldn't there be a better schooling system created, which is better with academic and financial education? My question is, what can we do about it? How can we create a better system?
You have written about many spheres in money-real estate, education, conspiracy and so on...yet either way you have always touched upon the mindset and the emotional factor. \it's a good thing that now you elaborate because many people already know what the dangers of the conspiracy are and about the rich idealogy and pretty much all the win-the-rat-race stuff but still people can't get down to it. Often enough it's emotions that get in the way-people have a dream, the skills and the plan to accomplish them but they are just not tough enough to handle the nasty business environment or are unable to lead the team because they may not be the leader type or crack from stress like me. i think this book is going to be particularly handy for people who already figured it all and just need the emotional armour to get down to it all. Thank ou for your work
Have you ever seen The Zeitgeist addendum film? www.thezeitgeistmovement.com - I know you are the best teacher of financial education in the world and to me is very interesting what are your thoughts about this film and this movement's mission?
I saw this film and now in my head is mess.
Please write your answer to the forum or to email address - lukrecija17@yahoo.com
It's nothing new to me, just what I've learned from experience, but there are many who need to hear it, and some who would not listen to it otherwise if they did not hear it from you, Mr. Kiyosaki.
Taking responsibility for things is crucial to our continued growth and success. When we accept the responsibility we give ourselves the opportunity to learn from the mistakes and best of all, we give ourselves the POWER to make a different choice and have a different outcome in the future.
Not to mention that in the professional world, I have little respect for people who blame others. It makes me a little distrustful of them because if we are working in a team and something goes wrong, the blamer is the first one to badmouth their team members to clients or management. Who wants to work with that person? I have so much more respect for people who say, yeah, we learned a lot on this project and here are the improvements we'll make on the next one. Now that sounds like a person who I want to work with because I know they are continually striving to do better.
I wish you would have introduced this project before The Conspiracy of the Rich. This is a project that really puts humanity back in control of its own past, present and future. -Thanks a Zil.
"Nobody must not be subjected to the torture, violence, the other cruel or humiliating human value to address or punishment".
This article from Constitution of the Russian Federation. The Truth I translation has got using translator. Do Not know it is correct was got translation.
Thank you again Robert for sharing this with everyone. I am now reading your book "Why we want you to be rich." and enjoying every page. I even got Donald Trumps books now. I am hooked. Anyway, I had a Aha! moment. I was talking to a friend of mine and I told her that I had started getting my finances in to order so that I could become rich and she said "I never thought about becoming rich. I just thought about being good at my job and not getting something out of it." My reply was that you could do both, give something and get something but her view that being rich was greedy didn't allow her to believe that. Then I realized that I was talking to a safe and secure person. Her training made her believe that everything would be provided because she was doing an important job. She was told that money didn't matter. And in an Academic Medical Center that is the story. It is different then the "find a safe and secure job". It is "Don't worry about the money, do your job well and you will always get paid well." That will not be true if Obama puts through his health care package. The next cut is for Docotors and nurses.
Anyway, I couldn't convince her even when she was recently fired and has to now go out and open a private practice herself. It is amazing that people only want to see what they want. Their entitlement mentality is so strong that they will not look at any other options. Maybe she is scared.
Thank you for taking your time and resources to teach.
Thank you for working hard to improve America and save some of us
from the coming crisis. I really have opened my eyes now and
no matter how people try to make me believe that a degree will
save me, I now know that I will save myself with knowledge....
The new Power.
Take care. Oh, and are you becoming a Buddhist? :)
Talking to monks? It doesn't matter, I was just kidding. But it is good what ever you believe. You have a great mission and your heart is good. I support you.
Just to add on to your excerpt on the above topic.
"Human success is based on the ability to learn from our mistakes".Bill Gates
"Life can only be understood backwards but,however, it must be lived forwards".unknown
"You are where you are because thats exactly where you want to be".unknown
The major tragedy of human beings is our failure to turn and move with the wheel of life as it spins,changes and re-arranges itself.We literally blame life itself for what it is, instead of responding to it in a positve way.Seasons will come and go and we keep on making the same mistakes and look for someone or something to blame.We actually become passive by blame such that we expect God to come down and spoon feed us.We are constantly looking for excuses to find somebody to blame and little do we know of our embedded inner spiritual resources to rise out of our negative situations.
"He who laughs lasts and he who dares wins".unknown
I don’t agree that blame is the root of all negative emotions; it might be fear or pain instead. Nor does it always feel truthful or healthy to say “I am responsible”. It depends on the situation.
But I agree that the idea is to find your power. You can do that by seeking out different perspectives. I would modify “Upon seeing both sides of an issue, the lesson will appear.” There are often many more sides to an issue than just two.
With blame, it’s natural to focus on all of the lessons that the other person is supposed to learn. Instead, focus on all of your behavior that was good, that you are proud of, that you perhaps need to strengthen much further. Find the gifts from the most painful of situations to take away any power the other person may hold over you. Make a list of all that you have learned, keep it, and build upon it. The next time you feel like blaming, refer back to the list and add to it or reread it. Maybe the lesson in blame is how can we move towards what we need and want in life and away from that which drains us?
Regarding gratitude, sometimes the gift is the strength we’ve built up to choose to stay away from the person or thing that hurt us. Be thankful the situation is over. Be thankful for all of the good things that have already or could still come out of the painful experience.
Regarding laughter, it can be more fun to laugh at the person/thing we blame (or fear) than to laugh at ourselves. For example, imagine the person dressed in funny clothes as JK Rowling teaches children with her Riddikulus Spell.
It can also be empowering to relive certain parts of the experience in your imagination. Don’t change anything about the other person; instead, imagine how different your responses would be with what you know now. Protect yourself this time!
Fantastic! I read the Exerpt 3: Lack of Consideration, and I must confess it is brilliant writing and shows a deep, profound research on the subject matter. I cant wait to have my hands on the book itself. I love it. Keep on creating great insight and expertise. You are a real strategist.
I am very impressed by your books which are a complete business course.
Your thoughts on negative emotions make sense but sometimes it can be difficult to completely handle them but there is a unique website called www.mindercise.net which offers simple techniques which not only deal with negative emotions but also enhances the mind, one of the techniques actually increased my IQ from 120 to 142 over time.
Morning,Robert.After reading some of your books and the first excerpt of the upcoming book I found something really makes me confuse.That is "when we need money,then we give money to our favorite charity",why is the charity so important? That also exist in your cashflow game too!When we want more opportunities to become rich we have to give the charity,then we get more dice.What does that mean?Why does charity always stand by being rich?If we give the charity,we could get more monney?I don't get it.
And I hope you could answer those questions for me,if you have extra time,although that is impossible,cos you are such a great guy and successful man.And you must lead a very busy life,but it's still worth trying.
Here is my E-mail:zdnhtzd@163.com.ありがとうございます!
One more thought. Not only do we benefit from the people that we have encouraged, but we will spend every bit of energy we have available to help those up here that have encouraged and helped us and thus we have created a perpetual situation that will be a continual wellspring that goes both ways.
We have been here for 27 years in Alaska and found exactly what Robert is saying to be true. You can bring out the bad side of each other or you can encourage and nurture the good side of people, why waste your life on strife and negative emotions? Life is too short and too dear.
Robert, I appreciate you going into negative emotions as it pertains to dealing with people, it has everything to do with investing. I have taught my children, when you pass along to others negative things about someone else, you are in actuality crying out to that person to somehow do something about how you have been mistreated. Don't be a whiner, be a winner. Look past the mistreatment of others and look for the efforts of others to encourage. We have 10 children and no time to whine, and three of them are on their way to becoming investors. People are the key to finding the deals that will suit you and your situation.
It has everything to do with investing, as in order to be a successful investor, you have to be successful with people. It makes a HUGE difference in the opportunities available to you. We live in a very small community, we live in Wasilla, Alaska. Everyone knows everyone here, and how you treat people will either make or break your opportunities to invest in this state. The people of this state are so connected with each other, that if you do not understand the psychology of people, you will not get far at all. And there is nowhere to go to get away from each other, and word travels fast.
It is also very dark here in the winter and it can be depressing, so we make a point of trying to encourage other people, it just may be the only encouraging word they received in the darkness up here. YOu better believe that they will do all they can to help you when you make a move to invest. Just three short years ago we had never invested in anything yet, now we own two-businesses and are on our way to getting out of the rat race and it was the very people that we have genuinely cared for and encouraged because we genuinely cared, for their efforts, that helped us the most. Take care of people and their needs and the money will follow, the opportunities will follow.
Thanks Robert for your insights and for the help that you have given to our family!! Cyndy12
Super take on negative emotions, this approach is one of an educated man. Through disassociation with the criticism of another, its stops the mind getting caught up in all the self analysing. Leaving more of your attention to focus on the job in hand, which happens to be communicating with the person in front of you? Spot on approach.
I think that they are spot on. The only way that we can learn is by the mistakes that we make or atlas that I make. The same is with our emotions and thought patterns. The emotions that we have today are the mistakes that have not been corrected for the better. As we move forward and reflect back on the things that we have allowed to make us negative I must take only those that align with where I'm going in positive manner.
This excerpt is not what I would turn to Robert Kyiosaki for. Strange that this is the first thing that he would want us to read which in turn he would want us to by the book by reading. There is too much psychology in the world already. If you do any self help reading at all this whole excerpt is almost old news. When I turn to a Kyiosaki book I want more Rich Dad poor dad advice and especially now with the turn of events and the economy the way it is. I like Kyiosaki so much so I certainly will give him the benefit of the doubt and do a little more research on the upcoming book!!
I was caught 'totally off guard' while reading about criticism here. I expected to read some great information on real estate investing, as I always enjoy with Mr. Kiyosaki's books however; I was greatly dissappointed.
As an avid investor, my main interest when I read Kiyosaki is the 'insight' the he always inspires about purchasing real estate, not the psychology of man. Call me one tract but, I believe that we are getting off the track here.
As humans we should try and learn something every single day. Being open to all criticism is the best way to improve in life. Never take anything personal in life because the more you are been criticize the faster you get your heart zest. We all have good and bad habits since we live among humans...Note having more critics make you more alert on your road to success..Asking question will make you well equipped in all segments... cos he who ask knows the best.
I believe that asking questions is definitely the key to alleviating the trend to take things personally. The statement that the best salespeople get the customer to do talking is true as I've learned from my experiences as a PPLSI Associate. I thing the excerpt is strong and it definitely leaves me waiting for more.
I realize I need to see criticism as an opportunity to get the help I need to improve the situation by asking questions of the critic - instead of becoming defensive against a perceived attack on my character or abilities.
Thanks so much as always for your continuous teachings and your thought provoking words. I just finished reading your 2nd excerpt on The 4 main causes of negative emotions - Identification. Excellent, as always.
I must say that I thoroughly enjoy reading as many of your books and articles as possible, I always get great value from them as well as incorporating the information in my own life.
I agree, you must ask questions to clarify instead of taking things personally. But should they hear you out at all? Or should you just take the criticism?
sometimes you may have a different idea on what you as a group are supposed to be doing, but you are stopped from explaining yourself.
I agree that it's important part of enterpreneur spirit and this skills help leading businnes and have good relationship with another people in our privat live too.
But When I am reading this part of your book I thinking it's one more guide. Library and bookshopare full of this kind of book. I love reading your book becouse you are putting all of that in another light. I think it would be bettwer if you woul add some exampels. It would me much more interesting for me.
I can not wait when I would read this book when it would be ready.
Love It: The 2nd Exert Feels Like You are Speaking To Me
This is great stuff. I love this, I have like two pages of notes that I can apply to my life right now. The second exert, about asking more questions and being in control is something that I needed.
I have known for some time, at least the past 17 years, and I am 31 that I had an "attitude problem". Well within the past 5 to 6 years, since having time to live alone, away from family, and meeting my husband I would describe my behavior as "defensive". I have always felt this need to defend, comments, actions, whatever... And while it is much better than it used to be, After reading this last section, I can see so much room for CHANGE and improvement.
I feel a true sense of liberation and I will be implementing the solution outlined in the article in the morning when I first begin communicating! I will keep you posted on my progress.
This is Awesome! You know since my husband and myself have been educating our selves financially, 5 yrs ago, we have run into a lot of "haters" on the Rich Dad programs, education, etc. But I must say, I can't not speak for anyone else; the ideals, the programs, seminars, board games IS working for us and I am THANKFUL!
I would like to share a book that details how our beliefs shape our reality and how to transcend the attitude of a fear based culture....
"Love is letting go of fear"
Have a good one,
Kenny
I do think that it is of utmost importance that we work through our so-called negative emotions first. We have to feel them, acknowledge and accept them, before we can move on. I cannot forgive and excuse people, if I have not worked through my feelings of outrage, sadness and fear.
I like what you are saying, Robert, yet we have to understand the role that feelings play in our lives. We cannot say to our emotions: do not justify, do not identify for example. You cannot control your feelings by using your rational mind. Feelings live in our lymbic system, ideas in our neocortex (if I am not mistaken). That explains why our feelings sometimes wash over us. All the (rational) talk in the world will not help.
And these feelings will come back over and over again, if we refuse to work through them (or they come back in the form of some illness).
I live in South Africa and we have a history that can fill one with negative emotions, or it can inspire even the most conservative of thinkers. RSA is an unequal society of huge magnitude and many of my countrymen allow that to influence their thinking, instead of recognising the wonderful opportunities that have now been afforded ALL of them through the sacrifices of Nelson Mandela and many other great men and women.
The blame game is bigger tha monopoly in our country and THAT, turned around, could indeed free many millions from negative emotions. The beauty of the land could be transformed to a beauty within.
Thank you Robert for including this into your teachings.
Emotions carry a 50-1 power advantage over a regular state.
All emotions are a result of a belief.
Its a choice between Love and Fear.
Many people who dont know finance, also dont know how the brain works...more importantly, the sub-conscious.
Be repeating and educating, our "reality" will changes as we change our thinking.
Namaste
Kenny, Edmonton, Alberta, Canada
Personally, its oneself who gives themselves a negative emotion. Things can happen so bad that you can still be positive about an incident. You have the choice to make the decision that is right for you. Others may find it strange, confusing, weird, or hoping for a negative outcome too. Make sure you are in control.
Robert, where can i get his book (or the excerpts you are referring to?)
Regards, Stephen Strydom - South Africa
Negative emotion is just merely you and yourself. The inability to justify one's worth + low self-esteem + stressing external environment = negative emotion. Basically, I feel that negative emotion is self-infected and thus it can be managed. It is the thoughts and responses to certain events which we face daily create the negative emotion. If we keep reminding ourselves to stay positive, you will be positive. It has been true and I have met people of this natural positiveness. No matter how the external world hit hard on her, she always has the ability to view it in positive manner. Thus, it is just merely you and yourself.
Hi Robert
I read your exerpt and I think writing about containing and redirecting negative emotions is a wonderful undertaking.
One thing about negative emotions that I have discovered relate to two things:
Anger and diffusing it - "I feel this way because I was taken advantage of, used, wronged, deceived, etc." The anger is directed toward the person when in fact the person is mad at themself because they allowed it to happen or were not aware enough to see it coming, what ever the issue was. One thing about that is that you don't usually get taken advantage of unless one allows or permits it. The self inflicted boot in the behind is directed toward the other person until one reflects on how they contributed to the situation.
Self punishment or self degrading thoughts - "I was so stupid, I can't do anything right, I am not as smart, skilled, well thought of, etc. as someone else." Those thoughts are harder to control until a person can see the positive side of things - We're all given talents - things we do well or a little better than someone else. We work at those talents more because we feel rewarded or take pleasure and truly enjoy doing them. Doing those things that please ourselves and improve our self esteme can extend on to reaffirming that we are good at something, we're only human, not perfect, and we learn by our mistakes.
These two thought patterns switch back and forth, similar to a light switch that goes round and round. To break the cycle, one has to grab on to hope. Your finanical education philosophy can break this cycle. Concrete steps on how to do what is necessary to get into a position of not only comfort, but beyond is welcomed as much as rain and water to a desert. Some will flourish and others will always feel that they can't get the concepts.
Keep up the good works. The brass ring is there, one just has to find it.
The Currently, I became I quadrant more than ESB successful,
1. The parents give money to me, then I take money to bank for portfolio income.
2. If I do not work, I can receive interest income & dividend income, and they can pay insurance expenses, and safe deposit expenses.
3. Since 2008, I met richdad series books, I learned different quadrant, different income. When I take money to New Zealand Dollar & South African Rand. In half of 2009, I read the dividend income to balance for bank statement. The final, I bought mutual fund income. The Currently, I received US$3 per day.
4. I am unhappy, because I had lower grade of school certificate, and I am afriad of became S quadrant for bankrupty.
5. The final, I upgrade I quadrant of skills.
If you any opinion, send me:
jessekevinsammak@yahoo.com.hk
http://jessekevinsammak.mysinablog.com
Thanks!
Self-Defensiveness drives us to negative emotions.Negative emotions compensates for the hurt we receive from the offense we encounter.It seems one becomes thrilled when another feels the same or almost the same hurt one experienced,isnt that revenge.So negative emotions prompts revenge.
What do you think GOOD TEACHER?
being an entrepreneur, leader, or individual you have to be able to identify causes of negative emotions and learn to manage them in order to grow. i think the excerpt was good and i think the concept of the book is great.
-Richie
I think that you are an excellent teacher. You know what it takes to reach our goals. You also have a great talent in the way you share all the different scenarios we need in order to achieve them. Our emotions will either prevent us from or give us a boost in reaching our goals--depending on whether we are negative or focused on the positive. As you know, this topic is critical.
It's hard to put it all into words, and you don't have time to read them anyway. But, thank you for your mission to help people like me to become financially free, to educate us, etc. My life has changed in so many ways and continues to do so. Thanks for empowering us.
Lisa
Hi Robert its a honor to contribute with my thoughts.
Robert, what you're saying is true. Personally I believe that behind justifying is the fear of being damage because of rejection.
I had identify that the more my self acceptance depends on others (the way I look, think, say, where I live, decide, etc.) rather than having an independent self acceptance, the more I'll justify because I don't want to be rejected and loose my source of acceptance, mostly what other think about me.
Loved this chapter
Yes, very true - but difficult to practice.
But it is an old adage that you should onto others as you would like others to do onto you. Love thy fellow men (and women).
Also when things are going wrong, its not easy to stay sober in you thoughts.
Having said this - you are so right - people skills are very important in business. You always sell not only your product but also yourself. You sell to people even if you sell big corporations.
If you let someone feel important (truthfully) and really want to solve his problem in a honest way you have done well. This should leave you the Entrepreneur in good form to be successful in business. Although retired I have great interest in all your books - have read every one.
Keep up the good and interesting work. It can only contribute to make the world a better place for people to live in.
Regards,
Gert
My frst reaction?
"Oh my God, Robert knows me, I did all this things!" Time to change.
Robert,your lastest posting about,Iran moving oil funds to euros is ominus. I have friends who have out moved out of the country. what is your advice,here with our marginal dollars......
I am enjoying what I am reading so far. It is so practical and I can relate to what you are saying on a personal level.
Keep it up Mr Kiyosaki and God bless.
When I grew up both of my parents were working artists who had been professional actors, theatre set designers, window displayman and commercial and fine art painter. My grandparents were doctors, one as a college president and the other as a dentist. The idea of business was not only looked down upon but considered the lowest form of work. When I started working for myself that was OK because I was a "craftsman" however when I joined a network marketing business and later, because I wanted to learn sales, sold vacuums door to door my mother was quite humiliated. I took a lot of desire to overcome those ideas but I knew nothing happened until something was sold.
My wife was very uncomfortable with the insecurity of sales since I was still new and could not guarantee the income each week and since we 5 young children. I decided to go back to being a mechanic in the S quadrant. It is difficult to fight the emotion of family.
I think the are a common limitation to future business relationships among individuals. Am writing form my unique environment in which quite a number of dudes desiring finacial freedom, willing to do something about it smartly, would happily accept cheating you once they get the advantage. Learning from the negative experience and being smarter next time is the only way that business relationship with this kind of people could stand.
hello robert, you have written in your book that the schooling system lacks practicality in a way and also financial education, and you are right to say that. The academic education as well is corrupt wherever in the world we go. But what now. What are you doing. Do you or have you send your kids to school, should we go to school, a place you have called as "weapons of mass instruction and dumbing us down". Shouldn't there be a better schooling system created, which is better with academic and financial education? My question is, what can we do about it? How can we create a better system?
You have written about many spheres in money-real estate, education, conspiracy and so on...yet either way you have always touched upon the mindset and the emotional factor. \it's a good thing that now you elaborate because many people already know what the dangers of the conspiracy are and about the rich idealogy and pretty much all the win-the-rat-race stuff but still people can't get down to it. Often enough it's emotions that get in the way-people have a dream, the skills and the plan to accomplish them but they are just not tough enough to handle the nasty business environment or are unable to lead the team because they may not be the leader type or crack from stress like me. i think this book is going to be particularly handy for people who already figured it all and just need the emotional armour to get down to it all. Thank ou for your work
Good afternoon Mr. Robert,
Have you ever seen The Zeitgeist addendum film?
www.thezeitgeistmovement.com - I know you are the best teacher of financial education in the world and to me is very interesting what are your thoughts about this film and this movement's mission?
I saw this film and now in my head is mess.
Please write your answer to the forum or to email address - lukrecija17@yahoo.com
Thank you,
Yours respectfully,
Ana Suchanova - Lithuania, Vilnius
lack of trust in your self and other people.
It's nothing new to me, just what I've learned from experience, but there are many who need to hear it, and some who would not listen to it otherwise if they did not hear it from you, Mr. Kiyosaki.
Taking responsibility for things is crucial to our continued growth and success. When we accept the responsibility we give ourselves the opportunity to learn from the mistakes and best of all, we give ourselves the POWER to make a different choice and have a different outcome in the future.
Not to mention that in the professional world, I have little respect for people who blame others. It makes me a little distrustful of them because if we are working in a team and something goes wrong, the blamer is the first one to badmouth their team members to clients or management. Who wants to work with that person? I have so much more respect for people who say, yeah, we learned a lot on this project and here are the improvements we'll make on the next one. Now that sounds like a person who I want to work with because I know they are continually striving to do better.
A lot of people get wound up with the justice of the situation.
...being justified to take action...
...it not right.... they are wrong...
... they should be sued... we need justice... etc etc
They can't see the other side on the argument because they are sooo right and they are sooo wrong adn should be taught a lesson..
I wish you would have introduced this project before The Conspiracy of the Rich. This is a project that really puts humanity back in control of its own past, present and future. -Thanks a Zil.
Reality. The truth is here and a great read.
"Nobody must not be subjected to the torture, violence, the other cruel or humiliating human value to address or punishment".
This article from Constitution of the Russian Federation. The Truth I translation has got using translator. Do Not know it is correct was got translation.
Wow!
Now I create this: "My truth - my secret!".
Thank you again Robert for sharing this with everyone. I am now reading your book "Why we want you to be rich." and enjoying every page. I even got Donald Trumps books now. I am hooked. Anyway, I had a Aha! moment. I was talking to a friend of mine and I told her that I had started getting my finances in to order so that I could become rich and she said "I never thought about becoming rich. I just thought about being good at my job and not getting something out of it." My reply was that you could do both, give something and get something but her view that being rich was greedy didn't allow her to believe that. Then I realized that I was talking to a safe and secure person. Her training made her believe that everything would be provided because she was doing an important job. She was told that money didn't matter. And in an Academic Medical Center that is the story. It is different then the "find a safe and secure job". It is "Don't worry about the money, do your job well and you will always get paid well." That will not be true if Obama puts through his health care package. The next cut is for Docotors and nurses.
Anyway, I couldn't convince her even when she was recently fired and has to now go out and open a private practice herself. It is amazing that people only want to see what they want. Their entitlement mentality is so strong that they will not look at any other options. Maybe she is scared.
Thank you for taking your time and resources to teach.
Thank you for working hard to improve America and save some of us
from the coming crisis. I really have opened my eyes now and
no matter how people try to make me believe that a degree will
save me, I now know that I will save myself with knowledge....
The new Power.
Take care. Oh, and are you becoming a Buddhist? :)
Talking to monks? It doesn't matter, I was just kidding. But it is good what ever you believe. You have a great mission and your heart is good. I support you.
Just to add on to your excerpt on the above topic.
"Human success is based on the ability to learn from our mistakes".Bill Gates
"Life can only be understood backwards but,however, it must be lived forwards".unknown
"You are where you are because thats exactly where you want to be".unknown
The major tragedy of human beings is our failure to turn and move with the wheel of life as it spins,changes and re-arranges itself.We literally blame life itself for what it is, instead of responding to it in a positve way.Seasons will come and go and we keep on making the same mistakes and look for someone or something to blame.We actually become passive by blame such that we expect God to come down and spoon feed us.We are constantly looking for excuses to find somebody to blame and little do we know of our embedded inner spiritual resources to rise out of our negative situations.
"He who laughs lasts and he who dares wins".unknown
I don’t agree that blame is the root of all negative emotions; it might be fear or pain instead. Nor does it always feel truthful or healthy to say “I am responsible”. It depends on the situation.
But I agree that the idea is to find your power. You can do that by seeking out different perspectives. I would modify “Upon seeing both sides of an issue, the lesson will appear.” There are often many more sides to an issue than just two.
With blame, it’s natural to focus on all of the lessons that the other person is supposed to learn. Instead, focus on all of your behavior that was good, that you are proud of, that you perhaps need to strengthen much further. Find the gifts from the most painful of situations to take away any power the other person may hold over you. Make a list of all that you have learned, keep it, and build upon it. The next time you feel like blaming, refer back to the list and add to it or reread it. Maybe the lesson in blame is how can we move towards what we need and want in life and away from that which drains us?
Regarding gratitude, sometimes the gift is the strength we’ve built up to choose to stay away from the person or thing that hurt us. Be thankful the situation is over. Be thankful for all of the good things that have already or could still come out of the painful experience.
Regarding laughter, it can be more fun to laugh at the person/thing we blame (or fear) than to laugh at ourselves. For example, imagine the person dressed in funny clothes as JK Rowling teaches children with her Riddikulus Spell.
It can also be empowering to relive certain parts of the experience in your imagination. Don’t change anything about the other person; instead, imagine how different your responses would be with what you know now. Protect yourself this time!
Fantastic! I read the Exerpt 3: Lack of Consideration, and I must confess it is brilliant writing and shows a deep, profound research on the subject matter. I cant wait to have my hands on the book itself. I love it. Keep on creating great insight and expertise. You are a real strategist.
Hello Robert
I am very impressed by your books which are a complete business course.
Your thoughts on negative emotions make sense but sometimes it can be difficult to completely handle them but there is a unique website called www.mindercise.net which offers simple techniques which not only deal with negative emotions but also enhances the mind, one of the techniques actually increased my IQ from 120 to 142 over time.
Morning,Robert.After reading some of your books and the first excerpt of the upcoming book I found something really makes me confuse.That is "when we need money,then we give money to our favorite charity",why is the charity so important? That also exist in your cashflow game too!When we want more opportunities to become rich we have to give the charity,then we get more dice.What does that mean?Why does charity always stand by being rich?If we give the charity,we could get more monney?I don't get it.
And I hope you could answer those questions for me,if you have extra time,although that is impossible,cos you are such a great guy and successful man.And you must lead a very busy life,but it's still worth trying.
Here is my E-mail:zdnhtzd@163.com.ありがとうございます!
One more thought. Not only do we benefit from the people that we have encouraged, but we will spend every bit of energy we have available to help those up here that have encouraged and helped us and thus we have created a perpetual situation that will be a continual wellspring that goes both ways.
We have been here for 27 years in Alaska and found exactly what Robert is saying to be true. You can bring out the bad side of each other or you can encourage and nurture the good side of people, why waste your life on strife and negative emotions? Life is too short and too dear.
Robert, I appreciate you going into negative emotions as it pertains to dealing with people, it has everything to do with investing. I have taught my children, when you pass along to others negative things about someone else, you are in actuality crying out to that person to somehow do something about how you have been mistreated. Don't be a whiner, be a winner. Look past the mistreatment of others and look for the efforts of others to encourage. We have 10 children and no time to whine, and three of them are on their way to becoming investors. People are the key to finding the deals that will suit you and your situation.
It has everything to do with investing, as in order to be a successful investor, you have to be successful with people. It makes a HUGE difference in the opportunities available to you. We live in a very small community, we live in Wasilla, Alaska. Everyone knows everyone here, and how you treat people will either make or break your opportunities to invest in this state. The people of this state are so connected with each other, that if you do not understand the psychology of people, you will not get far at all. And there is nowhere to go to get away from each other, and word travels fast.
It is also very dark here in the winter and it can be depressing, so we make a point of trying to encourage other people, it just may be the only encouraging word they received in the darkness up here. YOu better believe that they will do all they can to help you when you make a move to invest. Just three short years ago we had never invested in anything yet, now we own two-businesses and are on our way to getting out of the rat race and it was the very people that we have genuinely cared for and encouraged because we genuinely cared, for their efforts, that helped us the most. Take care of people and their needs and the money will follow, the opportunities will follow.
Thanks Robert for your insights and for the help that you have given to our family!! Cyndy12
Super take on negative emotions, this approach is one of an educated man. Through disassociation with the criticism of another, its stops the mind getting caught up in all the self analysing. Leaving more of your attention to focus on the job in hand, which happens to be communicating with the person in front of you? Spot on approach.
I think that they are spot on. The only way that we can learn is by the mistakes that we make or atlas that I make. The same is with our emotions and thought patterns. The emotions that we have today are the mistakes that have not been corrected for the better. As we move forward and reflect back on the things that we have allowed to make us negative I must take only those that align with where I'm going in positive manner.
This excerpt is not what I would turn to Robert Kyiosaki for. Strange that this is the first thing that he would want us to read which in turn he would want us to by the book by reading. There is too much psychology in the world already. If you do any self help reading at all this whole excerpt is almost old news. When I turn to a Kyiosaki book I want more Rich Dad poor dad advice and especially now with the turn of events and the economy the way it is. I like Kyiosaki so much so I certainly will give him the benefit of the doubt and do a little more research on the upcoming book!!
I was caught 'totally off guard' while reading about criticism here. I expected to read some great information on real estate investing, as I always enjoy with Mr. Kiyosaki's books however; I was greatly dissappointed.
As an avid investor, my main interest when I read Kiyosaki is the 'insight' the he always inspires about purchasing real estate, not the psychology of man. Call me one tract but, I believe that we are getting off the track here.
gonesouth
As humans we should try and learn something every single day. Being open to all criticism is the best way to improve in life. Never take anything personal in life because the more you are been criticize the faster you get your heart zest. We all have good and bad habits since we live among humans...Note having more critics make you more alert on your road to success..Asking question will make you well equipped in all segments... cos he who ask knows the best.
I believe that asking questions is definitely the key to alleviating the trend to take things personally. The statement that the best salespeople get the customer to do talking is true as I've learned from my experiences as a PPLSI Associate. I thing the excerpt is strong and it definitely leaves me waiting for more.
I realize I need to see criticism as an opportunity to get the help I need to improve the situation by asking questions of the critic - instead of becoming defensive against a perceived attack on my character or abilities.
Hi Robert,
Good morning,
Thanks so much as always for your continuous teachings and your thought provoking words. I just finished reading your 2nd excerpt on The 4 main causes of negative emotions - Identification. Excellent, as always.
I must say that I thoroughly enjoy reading as many of your books and articles as possible, I always get great value from them as well as incorporating the information in my own life.
Have yourself a great day...
Kind regards,
Kevin
Hello,
I agree, you must ask questions to clarify instead of taking things personally. But should they hear you out at all? Or should you just take the criticism?
sometimes you may have a different idea on what you as a group are supposed to be doing, but you are stopped from explaining yourself.
Stop, listen , learn
Hi !
I agree that it's important part of enterpreneur spirit and this skills help leading businnes and have good relationship with another people in our privat live too.
But When I am reading this part of your book I thinking it's one more guide. Library and bookshopare full of this kind of book. I love reading your book becouse you are putting all of that in another light. I think it would be bettwer if you woul add some exampels. It would me much more interesting for me.
I can not wait when I would read this book when it would be ready.
Cheers:
Ewelina
This is great stuff. I love this, I have like two pages of notes that I can apply to my life right now. The second exert, about asking more questions and being in control is something that I needed.
I have known for some time, at least the past 17 years, and I am 31 that I had an "attitude problem". Well within the past 5 to 6 years, since having time to live alone, away from family, and meeting my husband I would describe my behavior as "defensive". I have always felt this need to defend, comments, actions, whatever... And while it is much better than it used to be, After reading this last section, I can see so much room for CHANGE and improvement.
I feel a true sense of liberation and I will be implementing the solution outlined in the article in the morning when I first begin communicating! I will keep you posted on my progress.
This is Awesome! You know since my husband and myself have been educating our selves financially, 5 yrs ago, we have run into a lot of "haters" on the Rich Dad programs, education, etc. But I must say, I can't not speak for anyone else; the ideals, the programs, seminars, board games IS working for us and I am THANKFUL!